Needs.

I've been thinking a lot about needs lately. Specifically needs in relationships. We have many needs to be met, but what are they, who is to fulfill them, what needs are critical, and what needs can be done without. One conclusion I do know is true, is that needs, NEED to be communicated. One of my dads favorite sayings is "people can't read minds". Often I think we expect people to know what we need and when, and then are disappointed when they are oblivious. I wonder why it is so hard for us, or maybe just me, to simply communicate what we want. And why does it seem so much nicer when someone anticipates the need. And vise versa, I think people need to be more receptive to hearing others' needs, and receive it just as helpful information and not as a scolding. (Of course it needs to be delivered in an appropriate manner.) I think it is easy for people to get defensive both in delivering their needs, and receiving the needs of others - as if we are inadequate in our current efforts.

I feel as though the whole first paragraph is gibberish grammatically, but when read in a conversational manner would make sense - or just in my head. Bear with me. I found a good article/link discussing needs. Strengthenrelationships.com. This article starts off with a good point. In romantic relationships, are our expectations too high when it comes to our significant others and our needs? I'm personally struggling with what needs are our own responsibility, our family, friends, co-workers, etc; opposed to throwing them all on our partners.

I agree that this needs business starts within, and being able to identify our needs. Which sounds like it should be a fairly easy task...but it is not so. I know this is something I need to devote some time and heart to. If you have any strong opinions about the subject matter I would LOVE to hear about it.